The story is pretty common: someone has a problem with drugs or alcohol and everybody seems to know it but the person in question. It could be a brother, uncle, sister, mother, daughter, friend, coworker or really anyone you know.
When someone you love is addicted to drugs or alcohol it is very difficult not to get stuck on their emotional roller coaster along with them. Healthy boundaries are important in any relationship, but even more so when someone you care about has an addiction.
Parents say it all the time—“I had no idea my kid was using drugs!” Sometimes it can be difficult to spot the changes that occur when substance abuse is taking place. It is important for every parent to educate themselves about the red flags of drug use.
Having a loved one come home from treatment is exciting and nerve-wracking at the same time. In order to make the transition as smooth as possible, it is a good idea to follow some simple guidelines. The list could go on and on but here are a few things to help provide a solid start.
After working with hundreds of families trying to get their loved ones into treatment you begin to recognize barriers that are common amongst families, and parents in particular.
Perhaps one of the most difficult things that a parent can go through is having one or more of their children struggle with a drug or alcohol addiction. For many people, the first reaction would be “where did I go wrong?” It is important to not get caught up in the self-blame game because it isn’t going to help anything. The best thing to do is to begin to get proactive about finding a solution to the problem.
In the final portion of our series, we will go over a few more of the common reasons a person may give in order to try and get out of going to addiction treatment.
In the second part of our series, we will explore more of the common reasons people give to try to get out of going to rehab. We have also provided some tips on how to break through these excuses, in order to help a loved one agree to get help for their addiction.
Many times when people confront their loved ones about their addiction, the person being asked to get help will immediately begin to throw out reason after reason why they cannot go to treatment.