Over the last five years, I believe one of the saddest and most common justifications for continued drug and alcohol use I have heard is the idea of being a “functioning addict.” It’s not uncommon to hear someone say “ I’m not that bad.
After working with hundreds of families trying to get their loved ones into treatment you begin to recognize barriers that are common amongst families, and parents in particular.
It’s a common story. Your loved one whose addiction has been a major source of stress, anxiety and sleepless nights is finally in treatment and some of the fear you have been experiencing has finally gone. For the first time in a long time, you can take an hour or two to relax.
A complete and utter to commitment to treatment is what most families believe their loved one needs to have before they will pool together resources and place them in a treatment program.
“My loved one is homeless, underweight unemployed and on the brink of losing not only his sanity but his freedom as well if he does not get help soon. Every time I offer him help he turns me down and has a new excuse for every day of the week!”
Love is a beautiful thing, if you find someone that will stand by you hug you and hold you tight or give you a swift kick in the rear end when you need it then you are truly blessed.
Should I wait for my loved one to ask for help or should I give them an ultimatum and force them to choose between drugs and our family? This is a touchy subject and I will acknowledge right off the bat that there is never a “ones size fits all” answer.
If you break the law or disrupt the social conventions and ideals of a society anywhere in the world it is common and expected that punishment will follow. Without rules, laws, and consequences chaos would ensue. The culture of drug addicts is such that breaking the law is a given.
Drug addicts appear to be victimized, glorified, villainized and ostracized all in one breath by the United States media outlets. In writing an article it is never advisable to admit that not much time was spent on researching the topic but in this case, I would have to disagree.
This is not a white or black problem nor is it a poor problem, addiction is a human problem and it is time it is viewed in that light. It was long believed that drug addiction was a poor urban problem. It has only been within the last thirty years that the United States has begun to realize that addiction has infested the middle class and won’t be leaving anytime soon.